The Stereotype Guru on The Huffington Post Live

October 25th, 2012 | Categories: Uncategorized

Last week I was happy to have the opportunity to express my thoughts on gender fluidity related to children’s dress on The Huffington Post Live.

I welcome you to check out what I had to say, along with other panelists, during the 20 minute segment.

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  1. hylenia
    November 29th, 2012 at 12:46

    I agree with many of the points made in this video. Why is it viewed as “okay” for a man to dress as a woman for Halloween, but not children? Men wearing the opposite sex’s clothing as a costume is usually received as a comical costume. It is an interesting sight to see men wearing their sister’s clothing that does not quite fit right. I have not heard of cases where the man’s sexuality was questioned for doing so, so I don’t understand why people view children to be different. It may be true that at a young age, children have yet to truly identify themselves, but in my opinion, a boy wearing a princess costume for Halloween will not influence their future declared orientation. What type of clothing children prefer to wear does not dictate whether they will identify as homosexual or straight. There can be homosexual people that wear clothes specific to their gender, and straight people that like to wear clothes of the opposite gender. I believe gender fluidity at a young age is important. Boys and girls should be able to express themselves. They should have the freedom to play with toys labeled with either gender. Children should not be confined to gender roles. The only problem children have today is how their peers will receive the costume. Unfortunately, girls and boys wearing the opposite sex’s clothing may be ridiculed, not only by their classmates, but in some cases, teachers.

    When I was in elementary school, one Halloween I went to school dressed as a businessman. I am female, by the way. I thought of the costume idea myself, and put the pieces of it together. My school had a Halloween parade, where the students walked around the perimeter of the school, and families were invited to see their children take laps around the campus in costume. Fortunately for me, my peers loved the costume. My teacher loved my creativity. However, I received many confused stares from parents, but I was unscathed. In fact, I enjoyed the attention. In the end, I can attest to the fact that wearing male clothing had no affect on my sexual orientation. I say people today need to be more open to exercising gender fluidity in their children, so they can grow up to be confident individuals, not bound to specific career goals on the basis of their gender.

  2. Anastacia Kurylo
    December 5th, 2012 at 11:31

    I realized at age 30 or so that I had excellent hand eye coordination. I can actually hold my own in a non-competitive softball game (for someone who never played a day before then). Why did I not know this about myself? Because it never really occurred to me that sports was an option! After all, I had always just assumed that sports were for boys. Check out my related blog titled Sports as an Unbelievable option for Women: http://thecommunicatedstereotype.com/sports-as-an-unbelievable-option-for-women/

    The gender divide is palpable. I hear it, experience it, feel it everyday. Just today I asked my daughter if she wanted to have a playdate with someone (male). She said she couldn’t. I asked why not? She said because “we don’t have any boys toys.” I was shocked. I asked her what that meant and she didn’t know. I reminded her that we have lots of different toys in our home (e.g., trains, cars, legos, dress up dresses) and she said those were things girls played with! I told her boys could play with them too and then she agreed we could have the play date.

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